Facing the Music: Handling Critics While Pursuing Your Degree

If you’re an adult student, you know how important it is to have the support and encouragement of your friends, family, and children.

However, it’s common for those around you to have mixed reactions to your educational endeavors. Some people may try to make you feel guilty for investing time and money into your education; or they may resent your decision because it means you will have less time and energy for them, at least in the short run.

Forging ahead in such circumstances can be difficult, but keep the following in mind:

• Education is an investment in your family. Earning your degree may cost time and money right now, but over the long run it will increase your earning potential, put you closer to a career you truly love, and help you support your family while acting as a superior role model.
• The people in your life don’t know your situation. It’s natural for your co-workers, friends, and family to feel neglected or resentful – they don’t understand your reasons for going back to school, pursuing a particular course of study, or aiming for a certain career. Remember that your passions and goals are yours, and those around you may not understand your motivations or commitment to your goals.
• If someone tries to guilt you about your decision, it’s probably a sign of insecurity. Pursuing further education is a sign of strength and ambition, and may put certain people on the defensive. They may express their insecurity about their own education or career by trying to make you feel guilty. Try to ignore these people or open their eyes to the educational opportunities available to them.

Completing your degree while working full-time is hard enough as is; it’s even more difficult if your friends, family or co-workers are questioning your decision and trying to make you feel guilty. Try to keep your eyes on the prize, tune out the words of insecure people, and continually revisit your reasons for pursuing your education. Good luck!